Finding forever homes for brother and sister groups of two or more in England takes 36% longer than it does to find homes for single children. It is also harder to recruit prospective adopters who often have understandable concerns over their ability to manage more than one child and the financial impact of becoming parents for two or more children at once.
Whilst there are challenges to adopting more than one child, there are also some fantastic benefits in doing so, and to help prospective adopters understand more about the children in our care who need to join new families alongside their brothers and sisters, we have number of profiles of children in our care – one of these groups is 3 year-old Ava, 4-year-old Jack and 6-year-old Jessica*.
The children are currently in foster care due to their father’s mental health issues and domestic violence in the home and although the group have had a tough start in life the two girls and their brother are a close-knit bunch who rely on each other for support, reassurance, love and most importantly fun!
The eldest of the group Jessica loves school and the structure and stability that comes with it. Jessica can be quiet when she meets new people, but she is also very tactile and likes to be close to others when talking to them. Jessica can struggle to understand how she is feeling – for example, if she is upset this can mean she goes quiet or gets angry and needs help to understand her emotions by talking with a grown-up and checking this out. Jessica loves to do arts and crafts, go on day trips, play with her brother and sister, do jigsaw’s and board games, read books and play imaginary games.
When asked about her ideal day Jessica said:
I would like to wake up, have a breakfast of toast, cereal and fruit, have some playtime, go to the park to the swings, come home and have some time doing arts and crafts and be able to choose my lunch. In the evening I would like to snuggle up and watch a movie and have a takeaway pizza before going to bed with a story.
Jack is the middle child of the trio and adores his sisters – he will tell everyone he meets about his sisters and gets very excited talking about them.
He can struggle with some boundaries and is very expressional, you can often tell what Jack is thinking and feeling by the faces he will pull. Jack is independent and clearly makes his wishes and feelings known. Once he gets to know someone, he will show trust by wanting to play and show off his toys and games.
Jack likes to play with toy cars, Peppa Pig and Paw Patrol and enjoys jigsaw or any outdoors activity which involves getting messy or being energetic. Jack’s current favourite thing is dinosaurs!
At school, Jack needs some 1:1 support in class but he is thriving, his speech and language is much improved, and he has a good relationship with his class teacher and new friends who he talks about lots.
The baby of the group is 3-year-old Ava – a smiley and happy little girl who is always laughing with an infectious smile. Ava loves the company of others and she is at an age where she wants to try everything and is becoming very independent.
Ava looks up to her big sister and likes to do anything which her sister Jessica is doing, she will follow Jessica around and tries to copy her. Ava loves to go to the beach and will often say she is going/or has been even if this is not the case! Ava will get very excited when she is told there is a day out happening, she is happy to do anything active, where she is with people she loves. Ava is a sociable and happy girl in nursery and there are no worries about her development or behaviour.
When asked Jessica says she wants nothing more than to live with her brother Jack and her sister Ava, this is her wish over anything else, whilst Jack will always say his wish Is “to live with my sisters and to see my sisters”.
If you think you could provide a safe and loving home for children like Jessica, Jack and Ava complete our enquiry form now or to arrange to speak to one of our experts, why not book an appointment with one of our team from Cumbria, Durham or Together for Children/Sunderland?
Hear first-hand from our real-life adopters about how their experiences of adopting brothers and sisters here.
*names and images have been changed for safeguarding reasons