Paul, Dean and Daniel
This lovely group of brothers, born in January 2013, August 2014 and September 2016, range in age from 5-8 years old.
They experienced significant trauma in the form of emotional and physical abuse, alongside witnessing domestic abuse and being subject to neglect. At times they were not correctly supervised and were exposed to substance misuse. All of this has caused some behavioural issues, but they have responded incredibly well to boundaries set by their carers. They have a very close bond and don’t like being separated. They have been in care since 2019.
Paul, Dean and Daniel are all fit and healthy boys, meeting all their developmental milestones.
They are also doing well in education. Paul is described as a well-behaved member of the class who enjoys helping the teaching assistant with tasks such as sharpening pencils. Dean can lack confidence in his abilities but is a bright and happy boy at school and is popular with the other children. Daniel attends nursery and listens in groups and follows routines well. Daniel’s speech has improved since starting nursery and on placement. Daniel enjoys the soft play activity area of nursery and particularly enjoys the trampoline.
Paul is eight, with brown hair, brown eyes and a cheeky smile. He is a kind and happy little boy who enjoys praise and attention and is affectionate in return. He’s very active and enjoys football, bike rides, walks, swimming lessons, soft play, play parks, ten pin bowling and going to the movies. His favourite toys are his bike, Xbox, Kindle Fire, Lego and cars. Paul also enjoys quieter activities such as colouring in, jigsaws and reading. He is confident in his reading skills, and his writing has been described as “phenomenal” at school.
Paul is intelligent, with a good sense of humour, and is also quick-witted and observant. Paul likes his alone time from his siblings but he also enjoys his role as the big brother by reading to them and helping them with their homework. Paul views his brothers as ‘his’ and relishes his role as elder sibling; and needs reassurance that this is not his role to be protector of his siblings and it is felt that safe care will help promote this.
He can be boisterous but responds to clear and firm boundaries, and calm requests for him to do something. Paul does not respond well to raised voices and people who are anxious themselves. He struggles with big emotions, especially around contact. The trauma he has experienced means he can be volatile and his behaviour challenging. at times, but it has improved since being placed with his current foster carers.
Dean has blue eyes, light brown hair, freckles and an infectious smile. Dean has a warm and excitable personality, and is the most sensitive out of his siblings, which makes him very family-oriented and protective of Daniel. He is a caring little boy, who can get upset, but responds to reassurance and comfort. Dean will seek out cuddles once he is comfortable with someone and ask to hold their hand. He enjoys praise and attention, loves one on one time and getting stickers for doing well. He has looked for attention from strangers in the past but this has improved a lot prior to lockdown.
Dean likes jigsaws, Lego and colouring in, and loves going out on his bike and scooter and has just started swimming lessons. Dean is a fan of superheroes and Cars – his favourite character is Lightning McQueen.
There is some sibling rivalry, but he also looks up to Paul and accepts help with his reading and Lego. Dean has also responded really well to the increased attention from his carers during lockdown and seems to be becoming much happier the more time he is able to spend with them and get to know them.
Dean has been subject to emotional abuse and needs his carers to promote good feelings about himself. He can become upset and isn’t confident in his own abilities but lots of attention and comfort are helping. He now knows that he is good at maths and is proud of this, and he takes great pride in being able to read a full book without spelling all the words. There’s no doubt that he has the potential to become much more confident and independent with reassurance and praise from his caregivers.
Daniel is a cutie, with blond hair, blue eyes and a warm smile. He is a very happy little boy, affectionate, caring, full of energy and very curious about things. Daniel always has a smile on his face when he is playing and loves it when others join in with him.
Daniel loves playing in the garden on the trampoline, climbing frame and his bike, and is keen to begin swimming lessons like his brothers. He’s got a good imagination and likes to make up stories with Dean and Paul about the models they make and the costumes they wear. Equally, he likes to cuddle in and listen to stories.
Daniel’s foster carers say he is “kind, helpful, courteous, contented, curious, imaginative, talkative and full of energy”. He loves to give and receive cuddles, will kiss but doesn’t like being kissed so the foster carers do nose rubbing as a form of affection and also blow kisses which he catches and will either eat it or rub it on his love heart. He likes attention, enjoys praise and loves stickers for trying new foods.