As part of our campaign to encourage more people to consider adopting brother and sister groups, here we introduce you to 8-year-old Thomas, 7-year-old Ethan and 4-year-old Joe* – a fun and loving trio who we are looking to place as part of a permanent, safe and secure family.
The boys were initially placed separately in foster care in 2019 but were quickly moved to a new placement where they could be together. The boys have had two foster placements together and whilst the boys all have different needs, behavioural and emotional issues, they have settled in well to their current placement, are affectionate towards their foster carers and are hitting milestones at school and nursery.
It is difficult to know exactly what the children have experienced, but we know it involved lack of supervision, domestic abuse, physical chastisement, and neglect which can at times be reflected in their behaviour end emotional processing.
The boys tell us they are looking for a ‘nice family who go camping and make pizza and carbonara pasta’, as well as a permanent home which has a garden, a dog and is near a skate park (they also want to live next to a fair but we’ve explained this might be a bit of a tall order!)
Meet Thomas (8)
Brown-eyed and brown-haired Thomas is the eldest brother and the leader of the group who likes to look out for his siblings. He’s an intelligent little boy and an independent thinker. He likes to know how things work and will readily ask questions of adults.
Thomas is an active boy enjoying a variety of activities such as football, bike rides, walks, swimming lessons, soft play, play parks, ten pin bowling, cinema and plays. His favourite toys are his bike, Xbox, kindle fire, Lego and cars. Thomas also enjoys quieter activities such as colouring in and doing jigsaws. He also enjoys reading and is confident in his reading skills, and his writing has been described as ‘phenomenal’ by school.
Since moving into his current placement, Thomas is better able to discuss his feelings and what he wants, can concentrate better and can regulate his emotions better. He responds well to positive adult attention and lots of warmth, space to talk and a calm approach.
Meet Ethan (7)
As the middle child, Ethan is the quietest out of his siblings and is the most sensitive. He is kind and thoughtful but also active, bouncy and loves playing games. He enjoys crafts and anything creative, including cooking, watching the circus (and then trying the tricks himself) and Lego.
This brown haired, blue eyed little boy is a caring and sensitive young boy, who can get upset, but responds to reassurance and comfort. Ethan will seek out cuddles once he is comfortable with someone and ask to hold their hand. He enjoys praise and attention, loves one on one time and getting stickers for doing well. Due to his background Ethan does worry about rejection but he bonded hugely with his foster carers during lockdown and would benefit from being in a nurturing and calm environment like his current foster home.
Ethan likes completing jigsaw puzzles and Lego sets and enjoys colouring in. He loves going out on his bike and scooter and can be wary of swimming, but he is enjoying his lessons and asked to start them. Ethan is a fan of superheroes and Cars, his favourite character is Lightning McQueen. He likes being active like his brothers and particularly enjoys playing football, bike rides and ten pin bowling.
As the baby of the group, Joe is a happy little boy and often described as ‘cute’ – this blond haired, blue-eyed little boy always has a smile on his face, is affectionate and he loves cuddles.
Joe’s foster carers say that they have no problems with his behaviour. They say he is “kind, helpful, courteous, contented, curious, imaginative, talkative and full of energy.”
Joe likes cars and he enjoys doing jigsaws with his brothers, playing with Duplo and reading stories. Like his brothers he’s active and likes going out on his bike and is learning how to ride his scooter. He also loves football.
Joe loves playing in the garden on the trampoline, climbing frame and his bike, he’s got a good imagination and likes to make up stories with his brothers about the models they make and the costumes they wear. He likes to cuddle in and listen to stories.
When he first arrived with his foster carers, his speech was hard to understand, but this has improved enormously. He was also wary of affection with both the male and female carer but is now full of hugs and kisses for them both.
Statistically it is harder to find permanent homes for sibling groups, children over 5 years old and boys. We are looking to keep this close-knit group of three together with a couple as we feel this family composition would better meet the needs of the three children. If you think you could provide a safe and loving home for children like Thomas, Ethan and Joe complete our enquiry form now or email us at firstname.lastname@example.org
Hear first-hand from our real-life adopters about how their experiences of adopting brothers and sisters here.
*names and images have been changed for safeguarding reasons